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[IT]Il 28 agosto 2026 qualcuno รจ riuscito ad avere accesso come utente privilegiato alla piattaforma noblogs.org, sfruttando una vulnerabilitร del software che usiamo per fornire la piattaforma. L'accesso รจ durato per circa due ore, durante le quali รจ stata cambiata la homepage di noblogs.org e non possiamo escludere che l'autore possa aver avuto accesso al database delle utenti, che contiene la lista delle mail di chi gestisce i blog e le loro password (non in chiaro). Nessun indirizzo IP, nรฉ di chi scrive nรฉ di chi legge, รจ conservato nel server.
Il nostro blog Cavallette pubblica in automatico sul nostro profilo Mastodon e quindi un post scritto dall'attaccante รจ stato ripubblicato anche lรฌ.
Consigliamo a chiunque avesse il plugin di Mastodon Autopost attivo sul blog, come noi, di cambiarsi immediatamente le password dell'account social, e di revocare l'autorizzazione di Noblogs da Impostazioni Profilo->Account->Authorized Apps.
[EN]On August 28, 2026, someone managed to gain access to the noblogs.org platform as a privileged user, exploiting a vulnerability in the software we use to provide the platform.
The access lasted for about two hours, during which the homepage of noblogs.org was changed, and we cannot rule out that the attacker may have had access to the users' database, which contains the list of email addresses of the people who manage the blogs and their passwords (not in plain text). No IP addresses, neither of those who write nor of those who read, are stored on the server.
Our blog Cavallette automatically publishes to our Mastodon profile, so a post written by the attacker was also reposted there. We recommend that anyone with the Mastodon Autopost plugin enabled on their blog, as we do, immediately change the password of their social account and revoke Noblogs' authorization from Profile Settings โ Account โ Authorized Apps.
For now, noblogs.org is UP and online in read-only mode.
> Consigliamo a chiunque avesse il plugin di Mastodon Autopost attivo sul blog, come noi, di cambiarsi immediatamente le password dell'account social, e di revocare l'autorizzazione di Noblogs da Impostazioni Profilo->Account->Authorized Apps.
Aiuto amic* io non mi ricordo piรน se ho "Mastodon Autopost" attivo sul blog, so che quello che posto sul blog viene postato anche qui sul fediverso, su @bu, ma non sono sicuro sia tramite "Mastodon Autopost", forse รจ tramite un altro plugin che avete su noblogs.org; in ogni caso non riesco a entrare sul mio blog, bu.noblogs.org/, mi dice "403 forbidden"; non credo perรฒ che le mie credenziali siano state modificate, perchรฉ se metto a bella posta una password sbagliata, invece di "403" mi dice "password sbagliata", e se metto username sbagliato, invece di "403" mi dice "username inesistente". In ogni caso non posso entrare per cambiarmi la password. Perรฒ tendo a pensare che "lato fediverso" non sto rischiando, perchรฉ il repost sul fediverso non avviene tramite questo mio account qui, ma tramite un "actor" ActivityPub che sta direttamente su bu.noblogs.org.
No, giusto per scrupolo ci ho guardato (il percorso per arrivarci รจ diverso da quello che avete specificato, รจ "Preferenze" -> "Account" -> "Applicazioni autorizzate") e non c'รจ nessun permesso a noblogs, perchรฉ, suppergiรน come ho scritto prima, se sto usando "Mastodon Autopost" non รจ configurato per pubblicare i post del blog sul fediverso tramite questo mio account, ma tramite un "actor" ActivityPub che sta direttamente su bu.noblogs.org, cioรจ questo: @bu
Per questo mi รจ venuto anche il dubbio che magari sto usando un altro plugin per ActivityPub, che magari mettete a disposizione su noblogs.org; possibile? Io non posso verificarlo perchรฉ, come ho scritto, non posso entrare sul mio blog, ed รจ questo il mio problema ora.
Comunque non ho fretta, in particolare se mi dite che i blog su noblogs.org non sono a rischio ora che qualche stronz* filo-Trump-Rubio-o-altri-porchiddii, dopo aver "avuto accesso come utente privilegiato alla piattaforma", come avete scritto, ci pubblichi merdate a nome di chi li gestisce legittimamente ๐
ho avuto anche io questo dubbio e infatti l'abbiamo eliminato anche da un altro paio di installazioni wordpress (non noblogs) che contribuisco a mantenere. peraltro sembra che Autopost "rompa" qualcosa dentro wordpress per cui poi il plugin ActivityPub non funziona neanche dopo avere disinstallato Autopost
perรฒ a me pare proprio che usassi quello, il plugin "ActivityPub", e che su A/I ci siano entrambi... boh forse "Mastodon Autopost" rompe "ActivityPub" si, ma non sempre.
puรฒ anche essere che wordpress per certi versi funzioni diverso se รจ un'installazione "multiblog" come noblogs rispetto all'installazione per un singolo sito
Microsoft's behaviour is despicable, and there is no need to rely on their products. For every Microsoft product there is an adequate or even better open source alternative. The article fails to mention this and instead sounds a if the organisations only had a choice between a "free" (as in unpaid) and a paid licence with Microsoft. This borders on negligent reporting. #Microsoft #foss
MS has been squashing the futures of small, medium and non-profit enterprises since its inception. Extermination of competition might be the company's most important business line.
Cloud is ok for backup, but only that. And not your only backup. Onedrive, like teams, is simply not fit for purpose. I have office 365 provided by a client, but I don't use it for anything else and all the data is kept local.
doubt it is gone forever. wasnt there something similar with a famous streamer, where after MS said everything is gone. after it went viral, MS was able to restore it?
If you don't have a local (physical) backup copy of your data, and your cloud data is lost, taht is on you
really: backing up data to a local physical object is like brushing your teeth; you don't have to do it, but if you have cavities it might well be your fault
Thanks for letting me in control! And, err, I feel some urgency to look at myself, older than 35 and counting.
My digital journey: - mid 80's (childhood): my first PC, the awesome #ZXSpectrum 128K! self learning #BASIC, dreaming everything could be done with a computer. Playing around with my friend's #Commodore64K as well. - 1999 - 1991: #Linux is born! ... and I have no idea... - early 90's (teenagehood): saved money for a couple of years or so, and bought the #Amiga500 expanded to 1M. #AmigaBASIC and #AmigaDOS; #Workbench1.3 is my place. Learning some #DOS, #Pascal and the almighty #C in high school. - late 90's (dropped the university), bouncing from a short job to another. I could not afford a new computer, but I built one using scraps from other people. Late adoption of early MS Windows (95 to XP). I bought a PC magazine which included a CD with a full copy of #BorlandC++: BOOM! You know, I had no CD-ROM drive, but these are details I worked around. My unconscious feeling "Code is power, code is control" starts growing fast, but I feel trapped by licenses and lock-ins. - 2000's: my first Linux discoveries #mandrakelinux / #knoppix live CD. That was sooooo cool, but I could not release myself from MS tools and app. #lock-in - 2009: completely switched to #linux (Thanks #Ubuntu Intrepid Ibex 9.04) and never had a personal non-linux PC ever since - but I have to deal with them at work ๐. I also bought a 512MB-RAM Atom Netbook that's still alive, running on #debian 12. - 2012: my first smartphone (Android): I think I did not know at that time Linux was running under the hood. Today I know it's not the same thing anyway. - 2014: after a five years learning curve (barely no free time, you're supposed to be a dad, lately. And work all day long, of course!) I was able to port, test and publish my comfort code โค (#APT package) - 2024: - farewell Ubuntu; hopped to #Debian to give some fresh air to my values and needs. APT fits me better than Snaps and Flatpaks . I know I could do better (#InitSystem, #displaymanager, etc.), but Iet's try to get to some kind ethics/pragmatism trade-off ๐ - so long, GMS. Hopped to #eos on my smartphone.
---- TODAY ---- War is across the globe. All of the areas are building wall, setting up (or trying to) domestic infrastructures before bombs drop in their houses. Bragging about sovereignty (also digital). An Italian privacy-focused FOSS infrastructure is enlisted as terrorist. The Earth is warmer, hearts are colder. The sky is still blue.
---- WISHLIST and GOALS ---- unsorted - Be a good person - Give back and give away to the world - Get on stage again and do that regularly - A pure-Linux daily driver smartphone printf("CTRL+C to break.\n"; while(alive){ ROCK(); DANCE(); breath(); love(); CODE(); CODE(); CODE();} - My son embracing #FOSS - Be a better person
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@paninid A social media post features a screenshot of a LinkedIn post. At the top, text reads, "RIP, Dolly ๐. And thank you for the greatest LinkedIn post ever recorded." The LinkedIn post identifies "Dolly Parton" as a "Singer, Songwriter, Actress, Author & Entrepreneur" and "Imagination Library Founder," accompanied by a profile picture of a person with blonde hair. The text within the LinkedIn post reads, "Workin' 9 to 5, what a way to make a livin' / Barely gettin' by, it's all takin' and no givin' / They just use your mind, and they never give you credit / It's enough to drive you crazy if you let it".
@eugene1879 Thanks! I have tried migrating a bunch of times off whatsapp, but i really can't manage to convince the people I need to talk to to switch too, and that's why I'm still there
@MuhammadFreeSoftware @eugene1879 it takes time and a bit of patience, and sometimes it might also not work migrating at all due to lock in practices and network effects.
@menelion This is interesting because it has been mentioned by other people as well. Would you mind sharing more details? What open source apps/software lack accessibility features that should be there by default?
Okay, but it's a long sad story. Let me introduce myself first: I'm Andrรฉ, accessibility specialist and backend software engineer, blind from birth, so sorry for arrogance, but I know what I'm talking about. Like all the applications that are supposed to replace so-called big tech are either not accessible or poorly accessible. the only accessible Office suites are Microsoft Office (out of the box or almost) and google Docs (with screen reader scripts). All those EuroOffice, LibreOffice, docs, whatever โ no way. The most interesting answer I got was "Why do you need presentations if you're blind?" It was to the question why (the LibreOffice equivalent of PowerPoint, don't remember its name) is not accessible. then, fixing. When you come to an open-source software's repo and report accessibility bugs, the mildest you get is "We'll look at it in the future", but usually what you get is "It's open source, you can fix it and we'll (maybe) merge your PR". How can I fix everything I need, starting from the operating system and going to cloud solutions, office suites, media players, mail clients, browsers, screen-F'ing-readers, and so forth, and so fifth? I need to work now because I'm hungry every day. And my wife. and my cats. Sorry, I didn't want to get mad at you or something, it's just too sad. And If you want, I can give you articles about Linux and accessibility written by @fireborn, a very knowledgeable man who actually was and is using Linux, unlike me. It's also a sad story, believe it or not.
@menelion @fireborn you don't sound arrogant at all, so there is no need to apologise about that. It was a genuine question to educate us on the topic to be honest, and it is indeed sad to get your first hand perspective on these issues. It seems like we all need to talk more about this!
@menelion Was being the key word here. 16 years I used Linux primarily, but now I'm on a mac, or mobile, full time. Because accessibility, far from getting better in foss, is actively degrading.
Ui, we're not alone, who'd have guessed. The F-Droid.org mirror at FAU (Friedrich-Alexander-University) meanwhile shows the following text if you try to download an APK file using your web browser:
Unfortunately, Google abuses "SafeSearch" to flag our fdroid-mirror as "malicious" - because nobody is permitted to offer .apk-files for download other than the Google Play Store! As most browsers are dumb enough to trust "SafeSearch" to flag โฆ
La Commissione Europea ha autorizzato unโiniziativa dei cittadini che chiede alla legge UE di mantenere lโID digitale e la verifica dellโetร su base volontaria, rispettosa della privacy e non discriminatoria per lโaccesso ai servizi online.
Lโiniziativa intitolata 'Stop Killing The Internet: No Digital ID & No Age Verification' ora necessita di 1 milione di firme in almeno 7 Stati membri entro 12 mesi. Una volta raggiunto lโobiettivo, Bruxelles dovrร rispondere formalmente, proprio mentre lancia il Portafoglio di Identitร Digitale dellโUE e testa la sua app di verifica dellโetร .
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On July 19, 1921, the first anti-fascist militia in history, the Arditi del Popolo, was formed in the port city of Piombino, in Tuscany, Italy. Faced with a growing fascist offensive, anarchist and communist workers armed themselves around the Arditi del Popolo and, for months, managed to take to the streets of cities and working-class neighborhoods and confront the squads of blackshirts.
I like the symbol of fascine chopped by an axe on the right. they have fascine on the coat of arms of taxation service in Russia. and this is very good sign of anti-fascist movement, because fascine was a symbol of fascism, as well.
A new foundation for TUXEDO OS: Switching to Debian: Many users have noticed that we have reduced our update cadence over the past few months, particularly with regard to Plasma updates. While Plasma 6.7.
Hi everyone, I recently got my hands on a Fairphone 4. The electronics and the motherboard inside are fully functional and working perfectly, but unfortunately, the aluminum mid-frame/chassis is badly bent and the screen is broken.
Sto riprendendo confidenza con Mastodon visto che negli ultimi tre anni e mezzo ho utilizzato Misskey, infatti provengo da Foxyhole.io che sembrerebbe aver cessato la sua attivitร . Purtroppo non c'รจ stato alcun preavviso per cui non ho potuto migrare e ho perso tutta la mia "rete" ma piano piano spero di rimetterla su......non ho fretta. Se qualcun* mi dovesse incrociare e volesse palesarsi mi faciliterebbe la cosa ๐ Ho anche un account su Misskey.Social visto che lรฌ per lรฌ mi รจ sembrato naturale ripartire con lo stesso software per rientrare nel fediverso e fare successive riflessioni. L'idea delle istanze locali mi ha sempre interessato per cui eccomi su Puntarella.party โบ๏ธ Grazie ancora a puntarella.party #Mastodon #Puntarella #Fediverso
@emoxโถ ricordati che oltre alle istanze locali esistono anche le comunitร locali: sono account del fediverso che funzionano come gruppi: se li menzioni in un post iniziale ricordano il tuo posto in favore di tutti quelli che seguono quel gruppo. Qui puoi trovare i gruppi del Lazio su citiverse.it
Sono Filippo Giardina, sono un comico, forse mi hai visto a teatro, quasi sicuramente mi hai visto in qualche reel sui social.Ho scritto tanti monologhi che poi ho portato in tournรฉe, ma stavolta รจ un po' diverso.
Ecco perchรฉ i marchi di tablet da disegno non collaboreranno sui driver FLOSS per Linux
"Devo scusarmi perchรฉ oggi ho parlato di nuovo con il nostro team tecnico e abbiamo deciso di non procedere con il progetto del driver Linux in questo momento"
Caro Ministro Valditara, sono uno studente del Liceo Musicale alle prese con l'Esame di Maturitร . Come migliaia di altri studenti, il 19 giugno ho sostenuto la seconda prova scritta. La traccia proponeva l'analisi di L'Ondine di Cรฉcile Chaminade, scelta che ho accolto con interesse e rispetto. Fin qui nulla di strano. Il problema รจ che la partitura fornita agli studenti presenta un numero impressionante di errori rispetto all'originale. Non stiamo parlando di una svista isolata o di un refuso marginale. Sono stati individuati errori di alterazioni, accordi, ottave, impaginazione e perfino intere battute divergenti dalla fonte originale. In alcuni casi gli errori si ripetono sistematicamente; in altri riguardano passaggi che possono influenzare direttamente l'analisi armonica e formale richiesta dalla prova. L'aspetto piรน grave รจ un altro: la partitura utilizzata sembra derivare da una trascrizione reperibile online su MuseScore pubblicata da un utente del sito e non da un'edizione critica o comunque verificata con il rigore che una prova d'esame nazionale dovrebbe garantire. Per fare solo qualche esempio:
battute 5, 26 e 57: nota finale errata;
battute 6, 27 e 58: note errate;
battuta 39: contenuto della battuta completamente diverso dall'originale;
battute 72-74: intere parti della mano sinistra scritte un'ottava sopra;
battuta 75: numero delle semicrome non corrispondente all'originale;
battuta 76: accordi scritti in modo errato.L'elenco completo รจ molto piรน lungo.Chi studia musica sa bene che una singola nota puรฒ modificare una funzione armonica, una condotta delle parti o l'interpretazione di un passaggio. > Chiedere a migliaia di studenti di sostenere una prova nazionale su una partitura piena di inesattezze significa compromettere l'affidabilitร stessa dell'esame.Non si tratta di cercare polemiche. Si tratta di pretendere il minimo indispensabile: che il materiale fornito dal Ministero sia corretto, verificato e all'altezza della serietร che viene richiesta agli studenti.A rendere la situazione ancora piรน spiacevole c'รจ un fatto che ho potuto verificare personalmente: oggi ho provato a scaricare nuovamente il materiale pubblicato e la partitura risulta essere stata sostituita con quella originale.Se cosรฌ fosse, significherebbe che la versione distribuita agli studenti durante l'esame non coincide con quella che oggi รจ consultabile. Una circostanza che merita certamente un chiarimento ufficiale, perchรฉ migliaia di candidati hanno sostenuto una prova sulla base del materiale loro consegnato in aula, non di quello eventualmente corretto in un secondo momento.Mi auguro che il Ministero chiarisca come sia stata selezionata questa partitura e che tenga conto di quanto accaduto nella valutazione delle prove.Condivido questo post affinchรฉ studenti, docenti, musicisti e giornalisti possano prenderne visione e contribuire a fare chiarezza.
Caro Ministro Valditara,
sono uno studente del Liceo Musicale alle prese con l'Esame di Maturitร .
Come migliaia di altri studenti, il 19 giugno ho sostenuto la seconda prova scritta. La traccia...
@6al in realtร il problema sta solo nella penalizzazione. Non c'รจ alcuna possibilitร che l'errore del Ministero possa avvantaggiare chi, malgrado tutto, รจ riuscito a scrivere un buon tema sulla partitura farlocca
@esilvia o semplicemente hanno dato per scontato che quella presentata durante la prova fosse semplicemente una versione semplificata. Il principio di autoritร di cui รจ portatore il testo ufficiale del ministero, in questo caso non รจ un principio sbagliato ma รจ il fondamento stesso della prova concorsuale. Se viene meno il rapporto di fiducia tra l'autoritร e lo studente esaminando, si crea un problema gravissimo
@6al รจ incredibile: dopo la prima risposta, hai risposto ai miei messaggi quasi sempre con considerazioni non attinenti o assunzioni illogiche e poi ti permetti di parlare di "stile X" e fai pure l'offeso?
#Datestodon #AFN4FN #Brazil 32yo femby ISO femme-leaning person for hikes, surfing, and furthering the gay agenda.
Notes: - Hashtag codes are to get you into the right themepark, not a ticket to ride any specific rollercoaster. - Use the description for sexuality, relationship style, preferences, boundaries, and anything else that matters to you. - Orientation, cis/transness, "YOU" age, and other factors are intentionally not encoded. - Multiple "ME" or "YOU" categories may be combined when useful, but this will make your tag less searchable. - Age category applies to both "ME" and "YOU", and is intentionally broad and overlapping. The band is narrower at the low end and widens with each category. O isn't "old" it's just older than A. - F, N, and M are about presentation and identity, and don't cover all the complexities of gender, but they do provide enough info for *most* folx to tell if you're in their *potential* dating pool. - Keeping the hashtag code in the listed order and format will make it more searchable and easier for folx to read. ```
Update: - reworded some notes to address questions - removed (A)ny flag, as it overlapped with (A)dult, and just added complexity.
@cargot_robbie To me, this actually sounds surprisingly lot like the problem crypto has been trying to solve; You need to have public availability, distributed processing, and private readability of data. ๐
Dating apps have a lot of fake profiles. If thatโs out of the way I would like to know if there are people in my city/town or somewhere around me without having to match in the first place. I donโt want to use the app if there are no people around me who use it.
I haven't dated in a long time, but based on memory: 1. I would have wanted to selecting dealbreakers and never be shown people who had chosen those as traits. For example, if I'm deadly allergic to dogs, I never want to be shown dog owners. If I'm a vegan and don't want to date meat eaters, don't waste my time with mest eaters. 3. I don't want to post a lot of pictures to be shared with people I haven't matched with.
while I think I agree with the looks-first being awful, I'm not clear on the alternatives. Being good with words or just witty may not be that much better a criterion? What about the silent, kind anywho without particular looks or a massive vocabulary, also looking for a friend or a date. How can we empower them? How can we encourage people to give them a spin?
Solve the devilish problem of privacy versus assurance that people are real. My biggest issue with other sites is that im glad to share private details with other honest real folk on the site, but existing services are greedy evilcorps, harvesting and selling intimate details, while allowing oceans of scammers from all corners of the earth who pretend to be in my postal code.
Its a tall order.... But I'd gladly pay a non profit for the service.
not really using dating apps. So my mentions are maybe completely out of reality.
1. Safety: your data stays your data, no AI training, Building up Data to get stolen, e.t.c.
2. No profile picture: text, match, vibe, after that there is a option to defog your Profile picture or Pictures
3. Bullet points: Something to look at and Match before going deeper. But the points are also clickable to show an Explanation what the Individual understands under the bullet points. (bioware)
@Legit_Spaghetti Fake profiles are a huge problem in commercial dating apps. I used to be an avid reader of Reddit's r/scams and the amount of people who get targeted by romance/crypto scams is enormous.
Often times, the red flags are obvious to the people who know them, but the victims usually don't. So regularly giving out short tips with links to in-depth explanations of red flags or descriptions of scam patterns and how to stay safe in general seems like a good idea.
4: Photos only sendable with a kind "invite only", so when the other side explicitly gives the permission to send photos. I've heard so much of female friends who got unsolitcide Pics, maybe this would help
@NoRestfortheWicked the other day the devil on my shoulder whispered in my ear and made me laugh. What if csam filters were modified to trigger on all dick pics. So anyone sending one would receive the message โphoto not sent, childโs penis detectedโ
1. If I stress an age/gender/sexuality/distance range, don't show me people outside of that. Also the ability to see likes and message people without paying.
2. I like the optional questions on okcupid to build percentages, with the ability to add more details to the questions.
3. swipe left/right. Paywalls. Minimum characters in bios. I hate writing bios and would rather match based on a few criteria and chat with them a while to get to know them.
4. Being able to block people based on their profile.
@gnarf Seems like the simplest way would be to make dating only one interest, and have a ranking of interests (i.e, donโt match anybody with this interest, matches with this interest are acceptable [default], prefer matches with this interest, and donโt match anybody without this interest).
This assumes people describe themselves accurately, of course. You would likely still get guys who leave โdatingโ at the default level or even set it to forbid because โthere are no girls otherwiseโ. Would take good trust and safety tools.
I would appreciate events as a main feature. Like, a calendar thing, and heavy on the events ideas, planning and promotion. You could have a private calendar of one-on-one dates, and also (the main thing I'd want) a public calendar of group events for people looking to make friends and meet partners, which could easily be added to your private calendar.
Features I would love include the basic intro to feel how we can thrive together and give back to the world. Maybe ability to post a few pictures of what we like, such as a shot of our open source laptop, pets, bicycling, hiking, etc...
What features do I not want? Identity scraping sold to lists and billionaires that attempt to capture our basic freedoms and exploit our mere existence. What safety features do I need to feel safe? The ability to avoid having my identity included in a list sold to billionaire think tanks used to control my future.
I think LEX is a good starting point for mastodon but dating.. a fedi dating app kinda by default needs some kind of geo location cus like.. its sorta the entire point.. I am not entirely sure how to do that federated and safe..
A very easy and clear way for one to say 'I do romance but not sex' is something I remember noticing just not existing the few times I poked dating apps. Granted I also got the impression most people on dating apps were looking for sex more than romance.
No offense intended toward allosexuals, just not what I'm looking for ^^;
1. Ability to look for friends not just romance or sex 2. I like the personality questions on OK Cupid, theyโre v helpful for screening 3. I dislike ones that do creepy scan shit w your photos like saying they didnโt detect a face or it needs to be a close up or whatev. Both for privacy & also creative photos. 4. Awareness & design for rural. Option to use imprecise location, name your loc however you want (not requiring a specific city it knows of), and set a search & a discovery range
@moss Re number 4... think also about how to disambiguate similarly named locations.
Before meeting my wife I was on a bunch of dating sites looking for people in the general vicinity of Albany, New York.
I had a match pop up in Albany, we hit it off on text conversation, then proposed an in-person meetup.
After several iterations of me suggesting date locations and her having no idea where any of them were, we realized the problem: She lived in Albany, Oregon.
@moss (This was right on the early stage of mobile spyware dating apps when most services still offered a normal website frontend which I made a point of using, so there was no GPS input to the location)
just make dating option behind the private tab (locked option). So only the 2 perosn can see the chat or pictures. Also add no screenshot no tag option further safety
@electric_gumball In times when so many husbands rape their unsconcious wifes (big problem in France), how can you believe virtual accounts saying that s'o is not a rapist? @alice
@Legit_Spaghetti I came here to say this. OKC was great for people who liked writing oddly specific answers to their often very boring and Americocentric questions. I'd answered about 2000 questions by the time they Tinderised the platform to death (insomnia will do that to you) and met so many lovely people through it, some of whom I'm still in touch with.
So, to answer the question: freeform answers and the ability to choose weightings and dealbreakers.
Just want to add that you could comment your choices, and many of the questions were absurd and funny to fill in. It was part of the fun of filling them in.
I am by no means the right person to solve the issue I just thought about it long enough to go "huh yeah idk that sound tricky".. I'm just a lil graphics programmer data security is for the nerds!
Also I massively prefer the LEX style where people can post and interact in a semi natural social media way instead of the swipe format where you are cold messaging strangers.
Having a space where people can see you interacting with other people on the platform is such a massive thing and changes the dynamics a lot. You can build a reputation and make jokes and post stuff in the public feed where people can see. So someone might watch you from a distance for a while before deciding to message. I think that's a much better way of doing things imo.
What I think is particularly interesting about a fediverse approach to dating is that I've never seen a dating site use the existing social connections between people to help. For example, I want to write public recommendations for other people ("hey, I think this person is cool and here's why you should date them"). Horrifyingly, I think the easiest way to describe what I mean is "LinkedIn for dating". (Maybe Fedi-Dating and Fedi-Job-Hunting should be the same protocol, but with different profiles?) I think it's often easier for people who know you to talk you up than it is to promote yourself.
That said, safety is already difficult in both social networks and dating sites, so identifying the right safety features for a combination of both is particularly intimidating.
@jamey > Maybe Fedi-Dating and Fedi-Hiring should be the same protocol, but with different profiles?
Absolutely. The underlying pattern is 'offers and requests'.
Other examples includes hospitality exchanges, ride-sharing, timebanks, book exchanges, tool libraries, freecycling and repair networks. As with hiring and dating, recommendations can be helpful. Eg in freecycling, I know someone who could use that, and in repair networks, I know someone who can fix those.
The #ValueFlows and @Bonfire folks are very interested in the possibilities of software based on the offers and requests pattern. I think there's even a planned Bonfire flavour with an economic exchange focus, that would include building plugins for offers and requests.
I'm talking about naming collisions in general. Or for a more extreme example Cairo, New York vs Cairo, Egypt.
But definitely allow users to submit a location to advertise themselves as being in (which may not be their current location, e.g. if they are moving soon or currently traveling but looking for someone back home).
Yeah, obviously the execution of LinkedIn specifically is horrible, but I feel like there's a core idea there that is solid, buried deep under the same layers of rent-seeking and abuse as the other social networks.
One question I think is interesting about trust/reputation networks is: should you be able to express distrust? On the one hand it's good to be able to identify people who may be harmful to you, but on the other hand then you have to be careful about the trust network itself being a vector of harm. I don't know how to answer that question.
@NatureMC Truth sadly is, you can't, but if you could have someone (preferably someone known to both parties) kind of as a character reference, would that not be at least a little bit better than complete strangers meeting?
Love it if you can come up with a was to disambiguate "athletic" into "people capable of treating a bicycle ride as the precursor to a date" and "people with a BMI under 100" because oh boy did that one get me down.
3. mandatory app and links to antisocial media (I don't *have* meta, tiktok or shitter accounts to link)
2. OkCupids endless quiz format.
1. website-centric, privacy compatible and the ability to express both preferences and rules.
4. a) maybe a feature to mark meetings in person: you only go if both people mark a geo location as the agreed place to meet, both mark themselves "safely returned" a defined period of time later; if not, the platform admin is informed about the place and the profiles involved. b) a feature to show "trust" - no fake profile, real person, not being mean to the other person... however you solve that without real names in profiles and the needed anonymity...
I think in the default view of ones profile or even profile picture, it should be very clear what they are looking for and who they are, to avoid the RSD of later discovering a misalignment on expectations.
Finding friends should be a first class feature and maybe also support the travel use case, without having to change one's home base location.
Maybe one could even think of it as a "Fedi People Finder" that can help finding friends, tour guides, D&D/larp groups, dates, hookups, body doubles and such.
@sa7dse It would have to have a veil of pseudonymity, allowing you to advertise your interests/what youโre looking for discreetly and only reveal your identity/pictures selectively, as an open directory of online handles with relationship status and what theyโre looking for in varying detail might not have many takers.
Also, a many-to-one mapping of ads to users, so you can keep your d&d campaign plans, your band looking for a bassist and your love/sex life from colliding messily.
No freemium stuff at all. Either free with the possibility of tipping or paid for everyone.
Disable geopositioning after matching, ideally don't rely on it at all. When I was online dating if I opened a profile after matching, their position would update. This can be used for stalking, at best that's creepy and at worst it can cause real safety concerns.
Possibility to enter words or hashtags in a filter bar to prioritize or exclude profiles with them in their description. To make it easier to find profiles with similar interests or values.
No AI text generation, image filter or profile suggestion whatsoever. It goes without saying.
1. Being able to sort people based on multiple criteria - like mono/poly, genders, age etc. so that only people I plausibly want to match with show up
2. Idk? Maybe limiting how far away people are?
3. That they want me to pay to access all features.
4. Being able to hide oneself from certain categories, like if I'm not interested in men I don't want them to be able to see me. Them seeing me also wastes their time, since I'm not going to match with them.
1. The ability to temporarily turn my profile invisible. If I find someone very interesting, I'd like to focus on that person and not keep beeing flooded with messages, either having to deny people or engage with 5 people at once.
2&3. Haven't been to many, so can't comment.
4. An optional (!) ID check with a mark on a profile. I get some people want to stay anonymous. But when it comes to IRL meetings, knowing someone is known by ID would make me feel safer.
Want to also mention the old Okcupid questionnaire style matching, but it needs very strict limits on both changing your own answers and the ability to see what questions you match etc. I remember that it seemed very easy to "fit" your profile to someone. If your goal is to actually find a long term partner that's dumb of course, but for less honest uses there was a lot of potential for abuse that would need to be addressed.
honestly I enjoyed Hinge when it was new on the market, the concept of having text prompts or photo prompts did give you at least *something* to start a conversation instead of just photos like on Tinder.
Also the wealth of info you could put in to filter potential partners like "(do not) want kids" is extremely useful so that the "big life goals" between you are aligned
All I need is a safe little ace playpen where no one makes overly sexual commentary. However, I've always thought it would be cool for a dating site to have an option to link accounts for polyamorous people so they could basically have a polycule page where you can meet everyone if your interests match.
That way, everyone could have their own account as well as a shared page, letting them date within or outside the polycule as they wished. I know that's pretty much just what inviting someone to a group chat is, but it would be nice to have without giving out any emails, social media or personal info.
Lemmy know if we are actually start building some open source software out of this. I have Claude Max and am allowed to use it for open source to burn the rest of my weekly limit. I'm a professional developer, check my GitHub profile in bio.
Make it Fedi-Meeting-New-People, just dating is too narrow and that being the only focus probably leads to a great deal of creepy behaviour and dark patterns on the existing platforms.
Yeah, I don't want to muck up my profile and my feed here with a bunch of dating stuff, and honestly, I don't need to see someone else's dating process from their feed.
I mean, I'm the same person regardless of where I post, but it would be nice to have some segregation between the two.
Saw this post this morning when I woke up, boosted it, and have been thinking about it ever since.
I've not met anyone through a dating site, so I can't say what would or wouldn't work or have a reasonable comparison, even if I could.
Since I tend to overshare, I'm big on putting myself out there and letting the other party decide if they want to pursue anything. I do think that hobby and activity matching would be important, since that's the bulk of our lives, but like, I don't have to have the *same* hobbies as the other person, just...the same flavor.
I hate that appearance is so important for me, but it is, and I don't want to be the asshole turning someone down after "finally" getting to see a picture of them.
I like the ideas of setting the goals up front - looking for friends? Casual sex? Polyamorous? Monogamous? And I would prefer those restrictions to be held to - don't hook me up with someone that matches every single one of my hobbies but wants a casual relationship if I'm looking for a serious one. That sort of thing.
I'm not officially on the market right now, but I'd be lying if I didn't admit to being interested in dipping my toe in the dating pool again.
language filter, or geographical pinpoints (like this radius, but also that city that's just a little bit further)
I'm Dutch speaking, I can have conversations in French and English, but I prefer my "match" to be Dutch speaking as well. When I set my radius to 30km, I'm seeing people from Brussels, mostly French speaking, not really interested in that, but I miss out on all the lovely's from Ghent or worse Hasselt.
4. End-to-end encrypted private messaging, ability to fully and permanently delete all content once forever love is found (or automatically after a period of inactivity), protections from scraping for profile information and pictures. No AI. No data collection and sharing with third parties. No AI. NO data collection. NO AI. NO DATA COLLECTION.
Reuse the content they have boosted or marked, but only when the amount of profiles is beig enough. That way you can find people with interests as a basis.
Hide the fediverse account names until both agree to share it.
Save all higher tier security info on a separate service (your dating service).
I actually think you don't need separate moderation. If people are genuine creeps, mods and admins will not want them on their instance anyway.
Happily unpartnered here. My problem with dating apps is that it immediately launches you from chat to irl meet-up. There's no time to get to know someone organically and build some sort friendship. It's straight into interview mode, which puts a lot of pressure on meeting someone. Like buddy, who even are you.
In that way a fedi dating platform could be interesting, since you're sort of already building friendships here. Or at least have a sense about a person from their posts.
Other approach: - both need to subscribe to the "dating" service - both need to follow each other - both see two checkboxes on the other person's profile: * interested in romance * interested in sex - if both reciprocally check the same box(es), both are notified
-> if P1 isn't interested in dating at all, P1 won't subscribe and won't be bothered. Same if both subscribed but it doesn't match. If there's a match, it's up to the two to have the flirt develop via DM...
@Gina I've managed to meet a few ladies who had access to Discord. We ended up chatting for a few days prior to the first meet up. From my perspective, ladies on these dating apps want an instant date. So it's quite difficult to get them to slow down for a moment. That's just been my experience with those sites.
@Gina What if it's just the normal Mastodon system where you could interact and learn about people and then have within it a 'dating room' where you sign in and go see if the person you were interested in was there. Then move to a more dating style interaction with them.
@Gina A platform could have surveys like OkCupid, possibly with gamification, "Your friendship is at level 3, complete more surveys or chat more with each other to get to level 5 and meet up". Perhaps the first "date" could be screen sharing/simultaneous watching a movie remotely or playing an online game.
I'm old enough to remember when OKCupid was Very Good Actually, and genuinely different from the others. And the things that made it good also made it a great way to meet friends even if you weren't interested in dating. The reasons (not numbered by your questions):
0) Supported free form relationships, multiple partners (that you could link to if they also agreed!), genders, sexualities, etc. 1) Personalized compatibility questions - There was a small standard set, and then you could write your own which became part of the global set. 2) The answers had 2 dimensions - the actual answer and how much it mattered, from must agree to don't care. 3) 1&2 then got turned into a compatibility percent that you could see and sort by.
If you can mark certain attributes as mandatory for example, for other people's searches then anyone who hasn't specified them won't show up in the results.
a huge problem with any dating service is catfishing and romance scams.
Given how hard it is for any amount of community moderation to scale, and the difficulty you'd have attesting peoples' IRL identities, it might be a good idea for there to be eBay/trustpilot style ratings & feedback that both parties can give each other.
It's not a perfect system, but people with a longer-lived profile and higher star ratings would be the most trustworthy. It would be understood that if you interacted with a fairly new account or one with not that many reviews you may want to take more precautions before emotionally investing in that potential relationship.
Good question. Dating sites suck. If we were trying to plug one into Fedi I'd try a different way. Something that isn't a directory of single people, isn't a meat market or a meet market, but attaches naturally to the already-existing network. Just offering to try and pair people already here together.
Star with new User-profile checkboxes for:
I may be up for:
Group-Meetups
Meeting for fun with: {Guys/Girls}
Dating: {Guys/Girls/including-trans}
Within {X} Miles
I am a {Guy/Girl/None/Trans}
Living near: {location}
A handful of locations may be selected, people do move around, but not too many. Can't select everywhere.
Then the servers, if and only if you are already mutuals, AND you have the profile filled in, then when a like/reply/boost-request message is sent to a server your server attaches a 'Do We Match?' request with your profile options in it.
We don't even tell the liker the answer to that, just append a note about it in the interaction notification to the Original Poster.
EG: "alice liked your post. [AND they might be up for meeting for fun non-dates with people like you. Maybe DM them?]"
So the pair were interacting anyway, have a topic on which to begin a more intimate conversation, and mutual knowledge that they may want the same thing.
The intention here is there is no 'search for matches', procedure. No swiping. No extra scrolling.
I'm not trying to put people together who don't know each other, just match up those who already know each other but didn't know they might be up for a dinner date or to watch a football match or whatever.
We're only sending 'do I match you?' requests along with messages already passing between mutuals, and thus hopefully avoiding creating directories of single hot girls in your area for scammers to peruse.
And if you don't want any of all that you don't fill in the profile fields and then and no server evens sends you a match request.
Course, all this first requires sane private e2e encrypted DMs and presumably special moderation tools.
I'd like to say 'if I leave, all my data leaves too' but I'm not sure that's compatible with federation, and it also means creepers can 'leave', set up shop on a new account, losing all their red flags and warnings.
I've never used a dating app, I have met internet people IRL and dated them pre-smartphone, I wouldn't use a fedi dating app AS a dating app, I *would* use a fedi dating app as a "Finding out that some of the cool people in my phone could be met and havebeerwith'd along the route of this road trip" app
I want this, fedi, the way we show off our doodles and make each other laugh or play with words or whatever, with an optional Extra Layer On Top, a sort of Physicality Hat. If I liked someone's vibe I could hit a button that'd send them a key to some extra information about me (encryption details to be figured out by encryption people) like where I am, what I look like, what my schedule's like, whether I'm open to dating or just to meeting up for IRL bants or whatever, and nobody gets any notification about anything until both folk involved had hit that "Show this person another layer of me" button, and the intent of pressing the button could remain flirtily ambiguous given that this could also be used between dads borrowing jigsaws and pinball people who want to see each others' barns full of shite
This would mostly be useful for two people doing the upward head tilt with flirtily cocked eyebrow of "oh hey there" followed by the chuckling shrug of "Well I'm still glad I looked" as you find out that you're a thousand miles apart. And then you have the Friendship That Began With Mild Romantic Interest And Is Now Comfortably Platonic, which is a very nice friendship to have!
1. verification system based on other users. so, instead of verifying with a phone/email, other users confirm your existence.
2. none of them, basically? grindr's anonymity is great.
3. in general, the lack of data privacy. dating apps are basically the world's largest data mine, and imo they're a secret eugenics plot from big tech.
4. i think there should be a downvote button, where you can get profiles banned very easily, through multiple reports.
I could be interested in contributing to such a thing, if it's a real project...
I have never used dedicated dating platforms. But I think a more general Fediverse Friend Finder would be a good idea. Put in what kind of friendship you want, for example a romantic relationship, ERP, playing a certain video game together, programming, meeting up in meatspace for dinner or lunch, biohacking, fellow transgender/species peopleโฆ It's best implemented as a list of user creatable tags, and would recommend matching fedi accounts. You put in tags that describe you and tags that describe the kind of friend you're looking for. You can put the same tag in both fields too.
1. Finding local people and having red flags actually work. 2. Not many. Commercial dating sites exist only to extract money. 3. See #2. 4. I can't think of any!
1. filters that actually work. If I set something as a dealbreaker, I would rather see โno more candidatesโ than someone that doesnโt fit my preferences. Same thing in the other direction. I donโt want to see people who will never see me because I am a dealbreaker for them.
3. โpay to see who likes youโ is the absolute worst.
4. maybe some kind of karma system though I donโt know how to prevent this from being abused for bullying
I think having some hidden tags that only become visible if both people have them would be useful. Like if you tag your location as Europe, Western Europe, France, and Paris: if a potential match was also in Europe you'd see that, if a match was in France you'd see that, and if a match was in Paris you'd both already know! It gives a good indicator of proximity without screaming "Hello, this is my location!" to everyone on the app.
For location, you could maybe have a series of like cascading recommended tags? Like you could be presented with continent > country within continent > province within country, and also have the ability for some free tags where you could put your city if you wished. And obviously you could stop at continent or nothing at all.
"Only show if we both have" tags could also be useful for kinks and fetishes that would be great to share but aren't a dealbreaker.
I also think there should be a way to hide profiles that don't match certain specifications, like "only show profiles containing tags transgender, transfem, transmasc, nonbinary" for a quick broad t4t filter, or "only show profiles willing to have online/long distance relationship", or "only show profiles with tag "polyamorous".
I also think there should be different types of matches: maybe like a heart match for "I would like to match romantically/sexually", a star for "I would like to match platonically" (and maybe also like a hobby match, like "I would like to play video games/geek out about music/go to hobby conventions with you). A feature I think would be cool would be a thumbs up for "I'm alright with matching if you see something in me", where two thumbs up would result in a failed match and anything else would be a success. I also think you should be able to pick multiple types of matches for one match interaction: maybe you can set your default match type in user settings for quick tap/swipe likes, then have a long press or menu for multiple choice.
So: if Alice chooses to Star and Heart match, and Bob only chooses a Star match, they both Star match! If Alice and Bob both choose Heart match and Star match, they match (either as Heart which is pretty amatonormative or as like a sparkly heart? lol), the app tells them, and they can talk about it. But if Alice only picks a Heart match and Bob only picks a Star match, they clearly have different expectations and the match fails...? I think. (Or Bob is presented with a "hey, this person that you Star matched Heart matched you. Do you want to reexamine their profile and add a heart match, or would you like to turn the match down?")
I don't think that the public profile should necessarily have to include an irl picture, because I don't want unvetted strangers seeing my face. I think that maybe after a match a profile should show an irl picture, with a small set of 2-3 pics unlocked after a match.
And other people have already said this, but lots of q+a type prompts. Also, ability to create own fields for like "operating system" or "class I play in XYZ game" or "preferred role in XYZ sexual activity". Easy settings for users to pause (no longer show profile and freeze matches) and completely nuke (delete everything) their profiles. Competent blocking, whatever that ends up looking like with the final set of features. Good reporting for both images and profiles, maybe where if something receives multiple reports from different people (to avoid abuse?) the app automatically hides/mutes the images or user until a mod can delete or unhide them.
something to prevent fake profiles and location faking - okc is not usuable anymore as it's swamped with profiles from East Asia, pretending to sit in Europe.
uwu.dating might be a nice inspiration. It's for in-person events, so everything is a bit different (more geared towards getting you to meet up quickly, existing safety nets and awareness structures, ...) but I like the general UX. Having gender be a multi-select with lots of fun options is neat and also kinda hilarious.
1. Wizard to get that first date on the books and avoid the logistics hem-hawing. It could suggest good places based on each daters preferences and find a mutually good time based on dating hours settings.
2. You donโt have to swipe anyone to see the next suggestion on Feeld, and you can easily go back to previous discoveries. This eliminates the anxiety of choosing wrong at first sight.
3. Having to redo my profile on every dating app, and having them own that data. I should be able to self-host my own profile and proclivities.
4. I get hit up every day by obviously fake too-good-to-be-true profiles and Iโm sick of it. There needs to be some kind of vouching system or a more bulletproof method of verification that doesnโt involve matching profile pictures to IDs. The scammers put their own image on a billboard behind the fake profile image. Iโve caught it happening on Tindr.
1. Search criteria based on keywords! Modern platforms have removed this. And not being able to look for, say, fellow vegans is a deal killer for me 2. absolutely none. 3. swiping, randomization, and algorithmic limiting of who you see and who can see you 4. I'm privileged enough this has not been an issue for me
1. features I would find most valuable in a Fedi dating platform:
- be able to chat for free - not more than $20cad ($14usd)/month for all features - optional ID verification if someone feels the need to have that for safety reasons before meeting in person, but not mandatory - a way to sift out people looking primarily for sex and/or threesomes, etc. - a way to prioritize people who need connection/friendship with the people they date even if not looking for long-term/marriage-like relationships.
Some multiple choice answers (as well as room to elaborate) to quality of life questions that are optional to answer:
- are you career-focused - do you need your partner to be career-focused - do you need your partner to be financially independent - how many dogs do you live with - how many cats do you live with - are you ok living with dogs - are you ok living with cats - are you ok living with other animals - do you have children living at home - are you ok with a partner who has children living at home - do you live with roommates/family - are you ok with a partner who lives with roommates/family - are you ok changing habits to accommodate allergies and/or disabilities - do you need your partner to be physically active - do you need your partner to be social with your friends - do you need quiet space to yourself - do you like to be social at home - do you need to talk about issues right away or can you wait - do you need time to reflect and be calm before discussing issues (and lots more questions like these)
2. Features I like from existing dating sites: I havenโt used a dating site in over 10 years but questions to match compatibility was useful.
3. Features I dislike from existing dating sites: - The high cost - prioritizing people who pay the premium features - fake accounts / scammers - very hetero - too corporate - have to give ID and personal details
4. safety features I would need in order to feel safe on the platform: - Strong moderation - quick response when reporting a safety issue - blocking bots - not have to divulge exact location
@pre Yip. In an ActivityPub context I've been thinking that "virtual instances" (like servers on d*scord) would be useful, so that communities can build bubbles that aren't instance- and domain-bound.
Now, could there be temporary instances for events, like parties or a dating thing?
For me at least, I think it would have to be on a separate Fedi profile. Because any dating thingy is going to need me to disclose some info that I might not otherwise want to disclose. Eg, my real age (within a ballpark at least), my real physical location (again, roughly), my sexuality, and probably eventually a real photo of me. Most of those can probably be easily obtained with a few minutes' well-intentioned doxxing, but I still don't want to permanently pin them to my profile.
mentioning just because it seems to not be a feature on any dating site or app I've ever seen: The ability to restrict matches by country, not just distance. For example, I live close to the Canada-US border but will never ever visit the US ever again (The last thing I need is my disabled ass to be disappeared into a concentration camp). So matches 30 km away in the US might as well be 3,000 km. I would like to restrict matches to within Canada only in addition to whatever distance radius I set.
can't think of anything not already mentioned in this very thorough thread, but wanted to endorse the idea and add to the consensus that this should be a thing. Also, have to agree that for a long time pre-tinderized OKCupid was the benchmark for online dating, there's a lot to learn from their early days.
1. The ability to fully hide oneself from specific groups (e.g. straight cis men, people looking for hookups or FWB).
2. When I was dating, I liked how verbose you could be on OkCupid.
3. Silly questions. Whether or. Not someone likes grilled cheese sandwiches is irrelevant to whether I was compatible with them.
4. People shouldnโt be allowed to delete and create new profiles over and over again. Reports of sexual harassment should be taken seriously and a bannable offence.
added context: when I was on dating apps, the vast, vast majority of the sexual harassment I received came from straight cis men who wanted hookups or casual sex and who ignored the multiple references on my profile to being demisexual and only wanting a LTR.
This is no way meant to be an offence to members of those groups who read profiles and do not send out abusive messages to people who donโt want hookups.
But strong filters are essential in this dating climate.
I've been on dating apps for a long time, and am prone to strong opinions: 1. Features - I like specific profile fields for things like hobbies, interests, hell even just top 5 movies, over bios. I'm bad at actually talking about myself in large quantities. Could be a mix and match where you can fill out the ones you like. - Filterable opinions on having children - Actually respecting what people put in their interested in section, and preferably not showing people to people they wouldn't be interested in. Specifically talking about gender here, I put in no men in my preferences, and after a while about 90% of my feed was men. - Fedi specific, but a relay would be nearly essential for anything federated like this. Having one that's a default option to connect to would probably be a good idea, along with a site where people can list their own relays for more specific purposes, like a general area. - Filter for people looking for romantic/platonic/sexual relationships, potentially with combo options? (i.e. someone looking for an FWB could put platonic+sexual) - An expected seriousness of the relationship (are you just looking for a consistent casual sex partner on a month-long work trip, are you expecting to move after college, do you want to look at settling down, etc) 2. Features from other sites - I really like OKC's questions they ask. Simple yes/no, with a place to explain questions. Obviously not perfect, but a decent way to filter people for big questions. 3. Features I don't like from other sites - My desire to find love being sold for a profit is a big one I don't care for - If swiping is present as a mechanism, please, please make it a toggle. I don't mind swiping as a concept, but it is very easy to accidentally pass on someone that I was scrolling a profile for, and they're just gone now. It's easy enough to undo an accidental like, but an accidental pass is usually something you can't undo 4. Safety features - Allowing people to put in where they're physically located rather than going based on IP/Geo data - Not showing where people are from publicly would stop at least most people from getting that info. That would be harder to do consistently, and wouldn't stop server admins from seeing it, but it'd mostly stop random people who're just skimming the surface. - Maybe allowing people to select the areas they're willing to date from, since X distance would be a touch less consistent if the service doesn't know where you're physically located - Require a certain amount of messages before you can receive images, potentially even disabling receiving images entirely. I emphasize receive because federation has weird ways of getting around rules, and just disabling images from being displayed would probably be more consistent.
I think that's it, but we'll see what comes to me after I hit reply
@Legit_Spaghetti Somewhat similar story here, but a lot less years married and probably less questions answered. I found the question based matching good and that ensures one probably will find someone with similar values, which is good. @alice
mulling over some of these considerations, maybe go the other direction.
there are tonnes of Fedi platforms, not just Mastodon, so maybe just add a couple standard fields to profile indicating dating status and whether one is "looking for...".
that will bake in existing networks of the person as well, and no worry about stale accounts becuase a user is now part of a solid, closed relationship.
@Legit_Spaghetti a system for reporting unsafe people is a great idea. Implementation seems like it would be challenging. Maybe you could weight peopleโs ratings based on a few factors? Iโm thinking having a longer standing account would increase your weight, and having frequently endorsed people who get banned decreases your weight.
2. Just the knowledge itself that people on the site are interested in dating.
3. All the automation and questions to preselect.
4. Fake profiles are easy to spot.
So, for me, a dating platform on the fediverse would come down to something simple like deciding on a small set of labels for people to use in profiles to signal that one is open for dating. Everything else is just the fediverse the way it is, really.
The point is that I use it as a faster writing tool, every single commit is still committed and pushed by myself. Theoretically you just can see that it was written by AI is by how fast I commit them sometimes between two commits.
There is a huge difference between AI vibe coders and humans like me who are even working in Developer Experience tools like eslint, oxlint, prettier and so on.
Good search queries. Maybe I'm looking for Gender P for romance and Gender Q for friendships. Can I search both at once? Maybe I want friendships and I want to search for others who are open to friendships vs only open to friendships? For things with standardized values, have both "I am" and "Looking for" fields. Some "Looking for" fields are Nice to Have, others are Must Have.
1. I'd be most interested in a platform that allows me to meet new people based on mutual (niche) interests. Finding potentially compatible buddies to share time with, do something together, build trust and find out who they are before dating even starts. It would be nice to each specify a handful of topics to connect over.
2. Being able to somehow specify must-haves, what's important, "yellow flags" / maybes, deal breakers and then filter profiles based on those to narrow things down a bit more efficiently. Needs to be free text, no pre-selected answers.
3. Any platform that puts me under pressure to quickly decide whether I want to date a person or not doesn't work for me. I move like a glacier and am not usually attracted until I know people. Which can take months of talking online.
4. Any requirement to upload photos of my face or other identifiable parts means I'm out for privacy reasons. I'd like to visit profiles without those people seeing it, mistaking it for interest and pestering me.
I liked OKC back in the day, under its original owners. But after I answered a bunch of questions, it turned out that I knew everyone it wanted to match me with, because even my major metropolitan area still was a small town for my specific subculture. There's no clear fix here. 5/
Don't vibe code it. Maybe it makes sense to use ML-based tools for semantic understanding and matching, something like Word2Vec but for profiles, something that is well-contained, and not the core semantic of the site.
Maybe offer both an Images-forward and a Text-Forward experience? I suspect the latter will result in better matches... 7/
Re 1 & 2: I'd love to see an app with virtual cores, like Feeld has (had? I ditched it years back when TOS changed radically for the worse), where you have a virtual location and can connect with anyone who opts into that, too.
Re 3: Data harvesting and unencrypted messaging.
Re 4: @Em0nM4stodon wrote a brilliant article a while back about safety issues with dating apps. I have saved it in a million places and yet somehow can never find it. Em, could you add a link here? It really lays out the issues clearly and is worth consulting for anyone looking to build something new and non-abusive of users.
At the intersection of data privacy and LGBTQ+ experiences, it's inevitable to talk about queer dating apps. Unfortunately, most are horrible for data privacy.
the dating scene is a distant memory for me and I hope it remains that way for as long as possible. But since people are discussing more generalised meetups I may be entitled to an opinion here. Radius is a useless metric in my area and I'd guess many others. Within 7 miles can mean on the other side of town or the other side of the estuary. It's the difference between a cycle ride and a two hour train journey. The term I learned about when I complained about this to a developer in the family is isochrone. They allocate the "nearest" agent to a property based on upon estimated driving time. (Though equally possible to select public transport in the api) The boundaries created by a fixed travel time are called isochrones.
TL;DR We were able to precisely locate and track the users of four major dating apps, potentially putting at risk 10 million users This risk level is elevated for the LGBT+ community who may use these apps in countries with poor human rights where thโฆ
I talked with some people a couple of years ago about setting one up. One of the huge problems that I see is that the sort of governance and safety you really want on a dating site, especially one that deals with 2SLGBTQIA+ people, is not really compatible with a federated model.
I have given a few interviews where I say that I am expecting the concept of dating sites becoming past history, it's much easier these days to just start adding a way to identify that somebody posting to existing sites you use are willing and interested in being contacted for dating or friends purposes. Rather than answering 3000 binary questions with limited answers, people can see all you post and repost, and see for how long you have been around to give you credibility and substance. A summariser would be useful here.
You can see it happening on things like TikTok where people are hashtagging that they are available for dating. So say for example you are a Swiftie, it's immediatley obvious there that the person who is messaging you, who has been posting Swiftie posts for the last 5 years, is not some astroturfed predator profile.
It doesn't solve ALL the problems by any means... For example TikTok isn't going to remove a profile because you met in person and they assaulted you because that's not a thing that TikTok's safety teams deal with (sadly).
Yes, but I think, at least for me, not the only one. E2EE helps with keeping data secure in flight, but I don't want the party at the other end of my dating-related ActivityPub traffic to be a bot or malicious user, either. Most dating sites I've used in the past at least made you sign up for an account before you got to read my intimate details. I'd want visibility only to some kind of authorized and vetted counterparty.
1.2. I think the questions system from OkC is great, you can set what's important for you and sort profiles based on that, allowing each instance to set their own questions and use questions from other instances would be nice
3. So many people ghosting and treating you like you're just a consumable ๐ค I think it's by design I'm a bit too tired to articulate why
3. Don't ever require a phone number or a phone at all.
That'd get up to a kind of minimum. It's been a long time since I last used online dating, but my memory is that I usually put things there I wouldn't put on a publicly readable profile, hence my interest in not having my dating-related data be *that* public.
I tried to answer but tbh the first try, it was just me repeating "I'm demi, dating sites have never rly appealed BC they have never tried to find a way to include ppl like me."
Me trying again:
1 & 2 = I dunno, they tbh make me anx bc they feel like they cater to superficiality and put lots of pressure on ppl to find matches. So I've never used them, tho I've helped other ppl set up. I'm prob not ur target lol.
3 = Number of creeps, feeling like I'm on a shelf, ppl who lie abt hobbies to get matches, feeling like it is a competition w everyone else. (Observing other ppl use)
4 = Anon profiles until mutual matches. But I know how easy it is to find ppl by photo so that would rly concern me too. So something to limit that. Maybe safety # or safety check-in if a date happens so if I get vanished someone knows?
Lets be honest, dating is a total S*** show!It is something I and many others have known for over a decade. In 2014, I took to the TEDxManchester stage to tell the world something many of us dater have seen and experienced first hand.
Datestodon: Dating on Mastodon Introduction Dating on Mastodon is easy to do. Just make a post with the #Datestodon hashtag, additional hashtags to help other people find you, describe yourself and the person you'd like to find, and post.
Would there be any reason not to use #Datestodon, #FediDate, and #Dating? I'm thinking the last one would be good for people who are just searching without advance knowledge of the service. I don't want to hashtag-spam!
I'm pondering some sort of language recommending safe dating techniques and making it clear that, well, we can't guarantee that people using it are safe. Use at your own risk. Something like that.
I have zero personal skin in this game but from what I hear of the available options literally everything you've suggested seems like a massive upgrade to the user experience.
Ciao raga, per lavoro sono due settimane a Madrid e mi verrร a trovare anche @Vi qualche giorno: posti carini/queer/interessanti da vedere o dove divertirci un po' nel weekend?
@Micolcosta Per quanto sia bella Lavapies di giorno, alla sera starei un po' attento. Sono successe cose poco belle sia a me che ad alcuni amici (Anche se confrontandola con Milano, non รจ niente)
Tappe obbligatorie per mangiare: 100 Montaditos e Pez Tortilla (oppure per locali tapas che non siano catene, ce ne sono un sacco in zona La Latina, da non confondere con Latina). Per bar consiglio zona Malasaรฑa. Mentre il quartiere queer si chiama Chueca e trovi tanti locali anche lรฌ
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Io ignoro cosa dellโamore รจ una performance per voce sola giocata in seno al tentativo di decifrare il verbo amore.
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Flipper Devices svela Flipper One, un computer Linux portatile modulare e aperto, con lancio previsto tramite Kickstarter
Flipper Devices, la societร dietro il Flipper Zero, ha annunciato il Flipper One, un nuovo dispositivo descritto come un "multitool di rete" o "cyberdeck" basato su Linux.
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I'm honoured to have been elected to the Board of Directors of @fdroidorg , the most well-known #opensource alternative to Google's Play Store. " title=""/>
Imagine Microsoft deciding from now on what you can install on your laptop. No internet, you can only download things through the MS app store. Apps that MS has approved. Who wouldn't find that suffocating? Yet that is what Google wants to do on our Android phones (and what Apple already has - a closed ecosystem).
I am pleased to be able to announce this yearโs appointments to the F-Droid Board of Directors! We received a record number of nominations, and it was diffic...
In August 2025, Google announced: from September 2026, every Android app developer must register centrally with Google before their software can be installed on standard Android phones. This applies not only to apps from the Play Store, but to all apps. Including apps shared through F-Droid and apps made by hobbyists for personal use. Independent developers (and there are quite a few!) will be locked out of publishing their software on Android. :android:
- Paying a fee to Google - Agreeing to Google's terms and conditions - Providing a valid proof of identity - Providing proof of a personal signing key - Registering all current and future application IDs
F-Droid is an important link in the open Android ecosystem; an app store without Google's terms, without registration, and without costs. And extra secure, because the F-Droid team checks, rebuilds and signs all apps themselves from the source code.
I am pleased to be able to announce this yearโs appointments to the F-Droid Board of Directors! We received a record number of nominations, and it was diffic...
We need too make laws where it is illegal to sell data, and stop google from offering android for free, and so stop users to be a product instead of a customer. Customers who pay will be more critical when they pull shit like removing functions.
Oh @Gina you are so perfect for the role. You rock ๐. We will beat google: either the DSA will force google to accept alternate alt stores or we will fork AOSP in a joint effort of all alternative rom makers. Either way fdroid will play a major role in the future. I'm so glad we can count on you ๐ค
I have no idea how, but get the EU on Google's arse. You seem to be the only ones able to push the megacorps around. Well, EU and China, but they have their own anti-individual priorities.
@gh05t I went from a OnePlus 8 Pro to a FP6 with e/OS. The biggest adjustment for me was getting used to a smaller screen. I don't find the hardware and OS problematic.
Congratulations @Gina and kudos for taking up this task. @fdroidorg Ensuring the ability to use Android devices as personal devices where the user is in control is a very worthy cause.
I cannot stress the joy F-Droid offers to me in allowing me to avoid big techโs app store monopoly. Thanks to all the good people at F-Droid and congratulations on your election, Gina.
Possibly. We might try this with a new game -- which is designed from the beginning with the intention of making it open source.
Several of the games we've published were developed using open source: Ren'Py, Twine, and Godot.
But, nearly all of the games are narrative-based with themes and tone that are safe for players. We need to find (or define) a model that incorporates the freedom of open source while respecting the boundaries of being trauma-informed.
This might share some philosophy with Mastodon - balancing the freedom to speak within a framework which allow others to not be subjected to or harmed by that speech.
We will probably try this but might create something that open source folks consider to not be completely open source - and trauma-informed folks do not truly trust -- but this is worth exploring.
We have had conversations around this concept several times in the past year.
We will be certain to reach out to the OSS community as we explore this more fully. Thank you.
Apparently, #Google has lost track of their goal for #Android "We wanted to make sure that there was no central point of failure, where one industry player could restrict or control the innovations of any other. " web.archive.org/web/2012050108โฆ
Looks like a reproducible pattern, delete the evidences, then do whatever you want. Storytelling is the new true. And at the same time Donald is running for peace.....๐
@indigotime That's a link to the source code for the source.android.com website, specifically the "jb-dev" branch which was last updated in 2012. Nice idea to look at the source code, here you can see the actual commit where they removed the "philosophy" in 2014:
Situa cellulare: ho trovato un Fairphone 5 usato ad un prezzo ok, ho disattivato Google e ogni forma di assistenza Ai, ultimamente uso Brave come browser. Ho installato Cloudbeats per ascoltare la mia musica in stream, e COSA PAZZA nn ho portato instagram. Lo tengo solo nel vecchio cel, per le sole pubblicaz promozionali delle attivitร editoriali, ma diciamo che pref non averlo piรน in tasca. Ora mi pare di avere un rapporto piรน sano con il telefono.
If you are keen on personal privacy, you might have come across Brave Browser. Brave is a Chromium-based browser that promises to deliver privacy with built-in ad-blocking and content-blocking protection.
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ovviamente non funziona con tutti i film. Sto cercando come un disperato Gunshot, bellissimo giallo egiziano del 2018 che ho visto in aereo durante un volo internazionale
ciao, recupero solo adesso il post! Non essendo particolarmente esperto, chiedo... state continuando a usare questo metodo? ร sicuro o c'รจ il rischio di beccarsi qualche software-schifezza/furto di dati etc.? Ho visto che spesso ti reindirizza verso strani domini... grazie!
Stasera ho sentito di dover riaprire il mio archivio fb per recuperare e postare un mio pensiero di anni fa. Credo fu ispirato dagli attentati di Bruxelles del giorno prima. Sento ancora la stessa cosa. #ucraina
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La mia patria brulica di vita, di mille forme. Non ha bandiere, ma bellissimi colori. Tiepida madre, ha un boccone per ogni sua creatura.
A me il sangue versato fa orrore, da qualsiasi corpo sgorghi, in qualsiasi luogo macchi la terra.
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